Spending Time Alone Was The Best Adventure I’ve Had In A Long Time

This blog post is in response to Natalie’s 10 Day Freedom Plan Blog Challenge Day 8

Day 8 Challenge: Today Natalie said it was a “fun” day. She wanted us to go out and do something that we’ve wanted to do for a long time.  She suggested we “go out play, enjoy, and come back and write about what you did.” Then we are supposed to share how we can make such adventures part of our lifestyle.

HAHAHAHAHA! What a treat!!  An adventure!?!? I felt I already did this earlier this week. I celebrated a birthday and had an adventure at the Salamander Resort in Middleburg, Virginia where I had a glorious pedicure, deep tissue massage and sat in a mystical steam room with lights glowing from the ceiling like stars in an evening sky. Even better, because I was “local” I got a 20% discount! I hadn’t had time to do something like this for a very, very long time.

What made it even more interesting was the woman I met who gave me my Moroccan hot oil pedicure treatment. I learned she is from Nepal. She is, actually, the first person I ever met from Nepal. Her voice was calm, and the cadence of her accent hypnotic. We talked about her country. And, the earthquake that devastated the area a year ago.

She asked me if I knew where Buddha was born because she said people always get it wrong. When I admitted my ignorance, she told me that Buddha was actually born in Nepal, but found Enlightenment in India. We discussed that “peace” is the central theme of Buddhism. We talked about the possibility of passing out free Buddha t-shirts to everyone and that if more people wore Buddha t-shirts maybe more people would be reminded to live in peace.  Being in that post-pedicure ultra-relaxed state, this idea made complete sense to me, so when I got home I purchased a few Buddha t-shirts for me and my family to wear. Note to husband: take away credit cards from me after I  spend time at a spa….my purchasing defenses are crushed.

For today, I already had plans that were different from –  and opposite of – our suggested daily challenge to go “out” and do something. I had planned on doing something very different from my usual schedule…something that I haven’t had the opportunity to do in a very long time. And, it’s not something extravagant or outrageous. And, it had nothing to do with  going out.

My adventure for today was to have a “spend-time-alone” day since my husband and son were going out of town for a hockey tournament. I haven’t had the opportunity to do this because I homeschooled my son for a few years and rarely, if ever, have I gotten or do I get the house to myself.  So, my adventure for today was simply to spend time alone, with no schedules, no to-dos  so that I could read what I want, watch I want, eat what I want, when I want – with no one to take care of….but myself. I cannot remember the last time I had that much control over my schedule with no responsibility.

Today I meditated. I read magazines and books. I made green juices and salads. I NAPPED!!! I watched a documentary about Orrly Kelly, the fashion designer. I went for a walk through my neighborhood. I was alone with my  own thoughts. For me, this is an adventure!

I think it’s important to schedule in unscheduled time to explore and play……and sometimes to have no plans. I realize after today, I do not do this enough, and it doesn’t have to be this way.  Doing things that bring us joy is good for us physiologically. It creates oxytocin in our bodies that is good for our health and mental well-being. It recharges us and can supercharge our creativity. I’m going to modify my routine that I developed a few days ago to add in time – maybe one day a week where I have the time – for play and for no-responsibilities. And unstructured, spontaneous day is good for our entire family. As the day comes to a close, and as my adventure winds  down, I feel rested, restored and centered.

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